Deuteronomy 6:1-2, 6-9 KJV
Now these are the commandments, the statutes, and the judgments, which the Lord your God commanded to teach you, that ye might do them in the land whither ye go to possess it: That thou mightest fear the Lord thy God, to keep all his statutes and his commandments, which I command thee, thou, and thy son, and thy son’s son, all the days of thy life; and that thy days may be prolonged. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.
God has called every parent to teach our children His commandments and obey them. And teach them even while they are young. Obviously, God is going to hold the parents accountable, not grandparents, babysitters, nor childcare, Sunday school or tuition teachers. Parents are called to responsibility to our children, and that comes with God-mandated authority over them. Conversely, if we have to leave our children in the hands of others so much so that we loose the position of being the major influence and authority in their lives, it is out of God’s will and commands.
Is life’s necessities requiring you to stay away from your children so much that you loose your authority and influence over them? Do you find your efforts of teaching and disciplining frustrated by others (and feel helpless too) when they take over to care for your child? Of course we cannot and should not shield our children from every negative or influence that we do not desire, and that we need only to be concerned for our children what God is concerned about (don’t sweat the other stuff or we will be exhausting ourselves). However, if we find that we loose this major influence over them or you couldn’t exert authority over them, yet be held responsible for how they turn out, something must be wrong.*
2 Peter 1:3 KJV
According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue
He will help us fulfill this calling as parents despite all difficulties, such as financially or His calling for us outside the home, for example. Parenting is a huge act of faith. If you feel helpless because you are absent from your children most of time, or that you felt inadequate, perhaps it is time to reconsider, whether God has really called you to the vocation on the expense of your children and family (bear in mind God’s will for a woman is to be her husband’s helper) or that you couldn’t stop working because the family could not afford single income or that you felt inferior to the teachers who seem to have more patience or professional qualifications compared to you. Chances are, there might be some lies you are believing in because God doesn’t contradict Himself. Seriously pray and ask God, how He might help you to help your husband manage the home and children. God has given us all that we need to do His will. Our time and resources are sufficient, if we trust in Him to do only what He wants us to do. We just need to trust and obey. If God has called us, He will also help us accomplish it.
1 Thessalonians 5:24 KJV
Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.
*I would like to highlight here that children themselves have a choice to make whether they want to follow God’s way or not. There is no such thing as born Christian. God has sons and not grandsons. However, God has called parents to responsibility to teach our offsprings and this command is not to be taken lightly. We are accountable to God, not to our children or church nor the society to teach and guide them. Should we fail to discipline and teach them, we are actually being disobedient to God. Eli and Samuel’s children didn’t turn out well. Yet God punished Eli but not Samuel, have you wondered why? Only God can judge, He has given all of us free will to choose. Both ourselves and our children has to make this choice on our own part. We can make this choice to do what God commands, but only pray earnestly that our children will choose God, with all our efforts of projecting God’s image in our parenting to them. Let us do so with fear and trembling, yet full of hope and faith in Him who has called us to this magnificent task.